De Facto Relationships

It had been eight long months since Sally separated from Luke, and things were looking up. She and Luke had amicably split, agreed on the division of relationship property, and settled child support issues. These were a weight off her shoulders, but single life had its challenges.

 

She noticed that she did not see the benefit of bulk grocery purchases or split utilities bills. Sure, child support helped, but things were still tough. She had heard of the “singles tax” but seeing it in action was another thing altogether.

At the recommendation of her colleague, Lucinda, Sally decided to get back into the dating scene. Luke fully supported her in this and even agreed to take the kids during his week so that she could meet with the rather dashing Emilio.

Emilio had a similar background. He was freshly divorced and had four children who split their time between their mother in Spain, and with Emilio in New Zealand.

 

The relationship was going well. So well in fact that Sally decided to approach Emilio about moving in together.

 

“Mi amor”, Emilio began. “I love the idea of moving in with you. I agree that we are ready for that step. However, I want to broach an issue with you. A rather uncomfortable issue”.

 

“What is it, Emilio?” Sally asked.

 

“You see, I have four children of my own. My Estate is more modest since the divorce, but I still have considerable assets. I want to protect my children’s future, and in order to do that, I must protect my assets from any potential claims made by you or your children” Emilio explained.

“Oh, I see” Sally said. “I don’t think that’s a bad idea. I too want to protect what I have. I wouldn’t want to split our collective property five ways between my one child and your four children – that doesn’t seem fair”.

 

The couple agreed that they would go and talk to a lawyer about their estate planning.

 

Their respective lawyers explained that with blended families, there could be overlapping claims under the Family Protection Act. If Emilio and Sally each continued into a de facto relationship, then the presumption of equal sharing would likely apply. At the same time, Emilio and Sally each had a moral responsibility to provide for their children.

 

Emilio and Sally decided to enter into a contracting out agreement, to protect their respective assets. They then agreed to sign their own Wills, which reflected the provision in the contracting out agreement that neither of them would make a claim against the other’s estate.

 

Emilio and Sally could relax into their life together, knowing that they had a succession plan that was tailored to their individual needs, so that they didn’t have to worry about any headaches down the road.

 

Jamie Graham


Bob had been living in his first home for a year when he met Lizzy at the burger bar.

 

They fell in love, and Bob wanted Lizzy to move into his home to live together. Bob had a funny feeling that he should seek legal advice before asking Lizzy to move in with him.

 

Bob went to see his lawyer at Edmonds Judd. “I’d like to talk about getting a pre-nup with my girlfriend”. “Absolutely”, Bob’s lawyer replied, “in New Zealand they are known as a Contracting Out Agreement, and they allow you to contract out of the provisions of the Property (Relationships) Act 1976”.

 

Bob explained that he and Lizzy had only been dating for 6 months, however, Bob was confident that she was the one. He hoped the relationship would go on for a long time, but he was wary of what could happen if their relationship ended in a few years. “Things could get messy, right?”, said Bob. Bob’s lawyer nodded and explained a bit about relationship property law and what would happen if the relationship passes 3 years in duration.

 

The team at Edmonds Judd had assisted Bob with the purchase of his first home, which he funded using an inheritance from his father Steve’s estate. Recognising the importance of protecting his assets, Bob’s lawyer recommended that he enter into a Contracting Out Agreement to safeguard his property from any potential relationship property claims in the future.

 

“But wait”, Bob frowned, “I had a look at that, Relationship Property Act thingy before I came here, and it said that inheritance is separate property, so I don’t need a contracting out agreement.”

 

“Well, that’s true”, his lawyer conceded, “but only so far as the inheritance is kept sufficiently separate from any relationship property. If Lizzy moves into your home and you do not enter into a Contracting Out Agreement, the whole property would be considered relationship property if the relationship passes 3 years in duration and qualifies as a “de facto relationship”. Bob was gobsmacked and decided he would like to proceed with the preparation of a Contracting Out Agreement but first he needed to have a difficult conversation with Lizzy.

 

Fortunately, when he had a chat with Lizzy, it wasn’t a difficult conversation at all. She was on board with entering a Contracting Out Agreement as she owned a property with her sister that she wanted to keep out of the relationship property pool too.

 

They were both comfortable with their decision and instructed their respective lawyers to prepare and negotiate the Contracting Out Agreement, after all, there was no harm in hoping for the best while planning for the worst.

Georgia Ellen