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The Supreme Court recently issued its much-anticipated ruling in A, B and C v D and E Limited as Trustees of the Z Trust known as the Alphabet case. It concerns the extent of fiduciary duties owed by a parent to an adult child. ⚖️

The case involves a father, who transferred most of his assets to a trust during his lifetime, leaving his adult children without any entitlement to those assets. The children argued that due to past abuse they suffered at their father’s hands, including physical, emotional abuse and sexual abuse, their father owed them fiduciary duties that extended into adulthood. They believed his actions in transferring assets breached those duties, and the assets should revert to his estate to satisfy their Family Protection Act claims to be provided for from his estate.

While the Court agreed that fiduciary duties exist between a parent and minor child, it ruled that those duties generally end once the child reaches adulthood or the caregiving responsibility ends. The Court rejected the notion that such duties continued into adulthood, despite the children’s vulnerability due to the abuse they suffered during childhood. Importantly, the Court noted that imposing fiduciary duties in this case would create legal uncertainty and “reverse engineer” a remedy for past wrongdoing.

The Court also ruled against treating the trust assets as part of the father’s estate. However, it acknowledged the need for legal reform in this area and pointed to the Law Commission’s 2022 proposal to allow courts to unwind property transactions that intentionally defeat claims under succession law.

While the Court was sympathetic to the appellants, it ultimately found that the law could not support their claim in this case. The ruling highlights the need for further reform in this area of law, which the Law Commission’s proposals may address in the future.

Kerry Bowler, Solicitor Kerry Bowler


If you think you might succumb to temptation and buy a holiday house at your favourite beach this holiday season, here’s some points to consider when entering a sale and purchase agreement.

 

Your best option is to talk to a lawyer before you enter a contract to buy that beach bach. But, they might be on holiday too. So, if you can’t get to your lawyer, make sure your sale and purchase agreement has some conditions in there to offer you a level of protection. There are the usual LIM, building inspection, and finance conditions. But, you might want to also consider having these conditions too:

 

  1. Due diligence condition: this condition allows you to do some investigations before the contract becomes unconditional. If the property doesn’t stack up, you can cancel the contract, usually without providing a reason. This clause can potentially save you thousands of dollars!
  2. Subject to solicitor’s approval condition: this condition can be sued to cancel the contract on the grounds of conveyancing aspects of the purchase. So, not as broad a protection as the due diligence clause, but still a “good to have”.
  3. Insurance condition: given the changing nature of insurance in New Zealand and the impact that natural disasters can have, it is worth adding a condition that provides you are able to obtain insurance for the property.

 

Don’t get caught up in the hype. There’s always “someone else” interested in the same property. Take your time and make sure it is the right purchase for you.

 

Finally, make sure you get some accounting advice, there could be some unexpected tax complications.

 

We’re open again from 6th January to help you with your property purchases and conveyancing needs. We can also help you with ownership structures, negotiating property sharing agreements, succession planning, and any disputes that might arise

 

Wishing you all the best for the Summer holidays.

Joanne Dickson


Meet Luke and Sally. They’ve been together for about a year, and now they have some exciting news—Sally is pregnant with their first baby! Amid the joy, Sally wants to find out what her pregnancy means for her job and what leave she can take once the baby arrives.

Pregnancy Rights at Work

First things first: the law protects pregnant employees. Under the Human Rights Act, it’s illegal for anyone to treat Sally unfairly because of her pregnancy. In fact, employers can (and often do) offer extra support, like flexible work hours, to make things easier for expecting mothers.

Understanding Parental Leave

Sally is planning to be her child’s main caregiver, so she looks into her parental leave options under the Parental Leave and Employment Protection Act (let’s call it the Parental Leave Act for short).

The Parental Leave Act defines a primary carer as the biological mother (or another person, like a partner, in certain situations). If you’re the primary carer, you may be entitled to:

  • Unpaid parental leave from your employer, and
  • Paid parental leave payments, which are handled through Inland Revenue.

How Long Has Sally Been at Her Job?

What Sally qualifies for depends on how long she’s worked for her employer and how many hours she’s worked each week. Let’s break it down:

  1. 6-Month Test:
    If Sally has worked for her employer for at least an average of 10 hours a week in the 6 months before her baby’s due date, she qualifies for:

    • Up to 26 weeks of unpaid leave, and
    • Up to 26 weeks of parental leave payments.
  2. 12-Month Test:
    If Sally has worked for at least 10 hours a week in the 12 months before her baby’s due date, she’s eligible for:

    • Up to 26 weeks of paid parental leave, and
    • Extended unpaid leave of up to 52 weeks total.

Good news for Sally—she meets the 12-month test, so she’s entitled to the full benefits.

What About Luke?

Sally and Luke also have the option to share parental leave. If they decide Luke will be the primary carer at any point, he can take over Sally’s entitlements, but this means Sally would no longer have primary carer benefits during that time.

If Luke doesn’t take over as the primary carer, he can still apply for partner’s leave:

  • 1 week if he’s worked 10+ hours weekly for the last 6 months, or
  • 2 weeks if he’s worked 10+ hours weekly for the last 12 months.

What Does Sally Need to Do?

To take parental leave, Sally must give her employer at least 3 months’ notice before her due date. She’ll also need to include a certificate from her midwife confirming her pregnancy and due date.

Need Help?

Parental leave laws can seem complicated, but knowing your rights can make the process smoother. If you’re unsure about your entitlements or how parental leave might affect your job, we’re here to help—just reach out!

 

Kristin O’Toole

 


Our last article discussed claims by a partner on separation or death.

 

Conversely, some blended families want to provide for their new partner on their death and seek to minimise the risk of a claim by their respective children.

 

Under the Family Protection Act (FPA), parents owe a moral obligation to make adequate provision for their children in their Will.

 

To minimise the risk of FPA claims, couples may change the ownership of their assets so that those assets do not form part of their estate and are not open to claims under the FPA.

 

Some common ownership structures include:

 

  1. Transferring property into a discretionary family trust; and/or
  2. Transferring property into joint names so that it passes by survivorship on death.

 

These ownership structures make it more difficult for children to make claims against estates.

 

However, section 88 of the Property Relationships Act (the Act) allows an executor to make an application for division of relationship property against the surviving partner, where refusing them the right to do so would cause a “serious injustice”. If an executor is not willing to make the claim, the deceased’s children may apply to the court to have them removed.

 

If most relationship property is jointly owned or was transferred to a trust during a relationship, then that could meet the threshold for a serious injustice. In these circumstances the court may divide relationship property so that the estate has property available for the children to make an FPA claim.

 

A contracting out agreement is one of the only tools that can help to prevent these types of claims.

Libby McDonnell


Why should I look at my will?

Review at life’s milestones

You should review and update your will regularly. It is not something that, once done, you should just stick in a drawer and forget about. There are many significant milestones in life when you should think about whether your will is still appropriate for your unique circumstances.

 

If you don’t often review your will, particularly after important life milestones, you may discover (or worse, your family may discover after your death) that your will does not leave everything the way you intended. This means that certain people or causes may miss out on an inheritance or a gift in your will. Also, out-of-date wills can cause significant complications for the people involved in the management and distribution of your estate.

 

With the summer holidays coming up and some time away from the treadmill of daily life, this is an ideal time to review your will.

 

Buying a home is a milestone

Many people make a will when buying their first home. Although there is no reason why you cannot make a will before then, this is often the trigger when it feels like you have something significant to leave in your will. If you buy your home with someone else, usually you will want to leave the house to that person when you die. However, this is not always the case, particularly if you are not in a romantic relationship with that person.

 

If you have children from a previous relationship, you may want to ensure your partner can continue living in the house when you die but, ultimately, you want your children to inherit your share of the house. You may have borrowed money from other family members to help with the purchase that you need to repay first. Your will should be carefully drafted to make sure it truly reflects your intentions.

 

Joint ownership vs tenants in common: The ownership structure of your home, or any asset for that matter, is also very important to understand. ‘Jointly owned’ assets pass to the surviving owner/s when one owner dies. Assets which are owned as ‘tenants in common’ remain part of a person’s estate when they die and will be distributed under that person’s will.

 

Many people are not sure, or forget what type of ownership they have, especially if their house was bought many years ago. If you are unsure, or the ownership structure of your asset/s changes, you should review your will to make sure that everything will still be distributed as you want after your death. You should also review the ownership structure at the same time.

 

Marriage, separation and divorce

Getting married, separated or divorced are all events that have a significant effect on how your will might operate when you die. If you have a will and subsequently get married or enter into a civil union, your will is automatically revoked, unless your will is specifically worded as being in contemplation of that marriage or civil union. If it is not, you could effectively be left without a valid will, even though you have made one in the past.

 

In the case of a separation order or divorce, your existing will is not revoked but the law states that your spouse or partner is treated as having died immediately before you. This means any gifts to them will be void and, instead, any backup provisions in your will would come into effect. You should update your will after a separation or divorce to ensure that it will operate as you intend.

 

It is also important to know that the simple act of ‘breaking up’ with someone is not enough to have gifts to that person automatically voided. You should take the additional steps of obtaining a formal separation order or an order dissolving the marriage, and reviewing your will. If not, you could be left in the awkward situation of leaving everything in your will to your ex-spouse or partner – which may be a very unpalatable idea for some!

 

Birth or adoption of children

There’s a lot to think about when welcoming a child into your family and a review of your will may not be high up on the to do list. Your will should, however, assign guardianship of your children and account for their future needs, particularly if your child has special needs requiring a higher level of assistance. If there is a significant age gap between your children or you have children from different relationships, your will may need to be tailored to account for this.

 

Death of an executor, beneficiary or guardian

Executors are the people you name in your will to manage and distribute your estate when you die. A will-maker will often appoint a family member or someone to whom they are very close to carry out this role. It is important to have an executor who you trust who will do a good job.

The death of an executor, beneficiary or a guardian of your young children means your will may not work as intended or could create confusion. Do review your will if this happens or should your executor’s circumstances or health change.

 

Significant changes in financial position

Receiving a large inheritance or a significant capital gain on, say, property or business assets (or perhaps winning Lotto!) can significantly alter how you want your estate to be distributed when you die. You may decide to include additional beneficiaries – perhaps more distant family members or friends, or leave a gift to a charity that you care passionately about.

Although it’s not always the case, estates of relatively higher value are often more complex and require greater planning to ensure that everything runs smoothly when you die.

 

What if I don’t have a will?

If you die without a will (called an ‘intestacy’), your assets will be distributed according to the default rules established by law. Depending on your circumstances and who survives you, your assets would usually go to some combination of your spouse or de facto partner, children, parents and siblings. Even if some family members are estranged from you, they could still receive something from your estate under the default rules.

 

Other milestones

The milestones we have noted above for reviewing your will are not exhaustive. Starting a business, having a KiwiSaver account, moving countries, changes in your health and amendments to the law are all good reasons to look at updating your will.

 

If it’s been a while since you’ve looked at your will, we hope this article gives you the impetus to pull it out of that drawer and dust it off. Better yet, talk with us about it so you can have peace of mind knowing that, when you die, your loved ones will be taken care of as you wish.

 

 

 

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In this article we look more closely at Step 3 – Advice.

 

Once your lawyer has the details of all property owned by each of you they can assess what your rights would be if that property were divided under the RPA, and provide you with advice on how the agreement affects your property rights and the implications for you if property were divided under the agreement.

 

Why do I need advice on rights under the RPA if it’s just 50/50 and I’m contracting out?

This is where the law jumps in and says “woah there, partner! There’s a lot more to it (131 pages to be precise), so you should definitely get legal advice to check it’s what you want first”.

 

It is important that you fully understand your current property rights under the RPA before agreeing to change or give up those rights.  The starting point for under the RPA is that relationship property will generally be divided equally between partners in a qualifying relationship.  However, this is just a presumption, not a rule set in stone. There are numerous exceptions and adjustments within the RPA that can alter how property is divided based on the specific circumstances of your relationship.  Even the most experienced relationship property lawyers can find the RPA complex. That’s why seeking legal advice is essential before making any decision to contract out of the RPA.

 

Great, now you’ve had advice and know what your actual property rights are under the RPA, let’s compare that to your position under the contracting out agreement.

Even if you’re planning on entering into a contracting out agreement with the intention of maintaining a 50/50 split, it’s important to realise that the implications could be far-reaching.  Property rights, financial arrangements, estate planning, and even third-party property rights (such as those held in trusts or companies) can all be affected.  The agreement might impact more than you expected.  (*Hot tip* now is a good time to consider whether you should create or update your will as it works hand-in-hand with your contracting out agreement)

Your lawyer will be able to assess your specific situation and help you understand how the contracting out agreement compares to your rights under the RPA. They can guide you through the various consequences and ensure you’re fully informed before agreeing to anything.

 

But wait!!! It’s not enough just to receive legal advice—you need to understand it. Ensure your lawyer explains the details and feel free to ask lots of questions, we love to know you are thinking about how this all applies to you.

 

If you’re satisfied with the advice and understand the implications, it’s time to book an appointment with your lawyer to sign that contracting out agreement. This step is crucial to ensure your rights are protected and your intentions are clearly outlined.

Kerry Bowler, SolicitorKerry Bowler, solicitor


No one likes to contemplate their death. If we do think about the unthinkable, we like to hope that we will go as peacefully as possible with nothing left to worry about. Adequate estate planning can save your loved ones a great deal of time, money and stress while they are grieving you.

Part of your estate planning might include deciding what you want to happen to your remains after death. You may wish for your body to be interred in a family plot, have your ashes scattered somewhere special or have your remains disposed of in accordance with your cultural practices.

It may come as some shock then, that while your Will can contain instructions regarding your remains, these instructions are not necessarily binding. This can be a problem when your executors and members of your family are at odds as to what to do with your remains.

In New Zealand, the executor has both the right and the duty to make decisions about the remains of the deceased. However, there are a range of different factors that the executor needs to consider when making their decision, including cultural, religious and spiritual practices as well as the views of immediate and wider family. If it can be shown that the executor did not take all relevant considerations into account, then there may be grounds for the executor’s decision to be challenged in court.

Your wishes are of course relevant, but your executor may (and is entitled to) weigh your wishes up against any other factors that your wider family raises.

To hopefully avoid any disagreements and potential litigation after you have passed, you may wish to have a conversation with your executors and your loved ones now. This helps ensure everyone is on the same page about what should happen following your death and increases the likelihood that the wishes you record in your Will will be followed.

Edmonds Judd can assist you with this by drafting your Will and providing advice about your estate planning.

Jamie Graham, Law Clerk

The plight of stepchildren

Non-traditional family structures can result in unfair estate outcomes

When a parent dies and leaves their child or children out of their will, those children are entitled to bring a claim against their parent’s estate under the Family Protection Act 1955 (FPA). While a financially stable adult child may not have a claim to a large  proportion of their parent’s estate, they will usually still have a claim for ‘recognition.’

The same is not true for children claiming against the estate of a stepparent.

Stepchildren are only entitled to bring a claim against the estate of a stepparent in very limited circumstances – usually when they are financially dependent on their stepparent at the date of their death.

This can become a real problem when a parent dies, leaving everything to their spouse or partner, who is trusted to make provision in their own will for their stepchildren, but fails to do so.  Stepchildren are often left without a remedy, and this is an increasing source of perceived unfairness in a society where non-traditional family structures are becoming common.[1]

 

 

How does the law respond?

When someone inherits all their partner’s property, but ultimately fails to provide for their partner’s children in their own will, those stepchildren typically must look for alternative ways to bring a claim against the estate of their stepparent, outside of the FPA. Commonly this includes two possible actions:

 

  1. Making a mutual wills claim

Where the parent and stepparent originally had wills which left everything to each other, and then after the death of the second, made provision for each of their families, it might be argued that the wills were intended to be binding and that the stepparent was not intended to be able to change their will later on to leave out their stepchildren. If successful, a mutual wills claim would bind the stepparent’s estate to make the promised provision for their stepchildren.

The difficulty is often found in showing that there was an agreement between the parent and stepparent that the wills would not be changed. This may have been assumed, but it is rarely spoken about or expressed in writing. It can also be difficult when the stepparent clearly did not feel that they were bound by such an agreement.

 

  1. Testamentary promise claims

Claims are sometimes brought under the Law Reform (Testamentary Promises) Act 1949.  As the name suggests, these claims require some sort of promise to have been made.  The stepchild will need to show that:

  • They rendered services to their stepparent
  • Their stepparent promised to reward them for those services in their will
  • The promise was motivated by the services, and
  • The stepparent failed to keep their promise in their will.

Difficulties often arise in showing ‘qualifying services.’ Normal things that one might do for a close family member, such as helping in their older age, will not usually qualify. While some stepchildren have successfully argued that they abstained from making a claim against their parent’s estate, and that was a service to their stepparent, many children don’t ever seriously think about making such a claim, so it is hard to make that out as a ‘service.’

Promises are often vague, and New Zealanders do not always like to talk about money.

Even where there are services, and a promise to reward, in many cases the promise is found to have been motivated by the close relationship rather than the services themselves.

It can be very hard to make a successful testamentary promises claim.

 

 

Case example

In a 2015 case,[2] a child failed in several claims against his stepfather’s estate. The High Court said:

“While I have sympathy for the position Paul finds himself in, his personal claims against the estate appear to me to fall within the rock of the [Family Protection Act 1955] and the hard place of the [Law Reform (Testamentary Promises) Act 1949].”

There are also a variety of claims available to stepchildren such as a constructive trust, estoppel or unjust enrichment. These generally make similar arguments, but often fail for the same reasons as in the Blumenthal case.

Stepchildren often miss out because they wanted to do the right thing when their parent died, and they made the unfortunate decision to trust their stepparent to do the right thing later.

 

 

 

Will this change?

The Law Commission identified the plight of stepchildren in its 2021 Succession Review Issues Paper, but it did not propose any new avenue for stepchildren to bring claims against the estate of a stepparent, simply because they have ‘missed out’ on their parent’s estate.[3]

Further, the law reform project has stalled, leaving things in a rather unsatisfactory position for stepchildren who are more and more commonly in this situation.

This situation for stepchildren highlights the continued importance of having proper estate planning arrangements in place – particularly for blended families. There can be a significant financial and emotional cost when these things are not discussed and addressed while both parents and stepparents are alive and capable.

 

[1] The Law Commission noted in 2021 that only 7% of children lived from birth to age 15 in households containing only nuclear family members: Te Aka Matua o te Ture | Law Commission Review of Succession Law: Rights to a person’s property on death (April 2021, Wellington, NZIPC 46) at [1.15].

[2] Blumenthal v Stewart [2015] NZHC 3187, affirmed on appeal.

[3] Te Aka Matua o te Ture | Law Commission Review of Succession Law: Rights to a person’s property on death (April 2021, Wellington, NZIPC 46) at [4.70].

 

 

 

 

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You have some legal obligations

We all want to look after our families – both during our lives and after we die. One way you can make sure that your family is looked after when you die is by leaving behind a clear, well-drafted will.

 

In New Zealand, we have considerable ‘testamentary freedom,’ meaning we can generally choose how we want to distribute our personal assets after our deaths. Testamentary freedom has been a fundamental feature of New Zealand law for many years. There are, however, limits to testamentary freedom. We see these limits in action when claims are made against a family member’s estate.

 

Claims against an estate

Claims against estates can be made under the Family Protection Act 1955 which provides that you have  a moral duty to provide adequate maintenance and support for certain family members after your death. They include your spouse, children and sometimes grandchildren. Even if you have family members with whom you have had a poor relationship during your lifetime, if you do not adequately provide for their maintenance and support in your will, there is a risk they could make a claim against your estate.

 

If you want to leave unequal shares of your estate to your family members, or leave a close family member out of your will entirely, it is important to state this expressly in your will and to provide your reasons for doing so. This can reduce the likelihood of a successful claim being made against your estate.

 

Protecting beneficiaries from their own folly

If you are concerned about how a particular family member (a beneficiary) may use (or misuse) their share of your estate, you should discuss this with us before your will is drafted. Leaving your family members with a significant lump-sum of cash is not the only way to provide them with their share of your estate. There are options such as establishing a protective trust for their share or appointing trustees to manage money on their behalf. These options may ease your concerns.

 

Family members having different needs

If your family members have different needs, you may want to consider adjusting their share of your estate. With family members who have significant health issues or support needs, your obligation to provide for them may be greater.

 

Earlier this year, the High Court made a decision in a case,[1] upholding an earlier decision of the Family Court. That decision increased the proportion of a father’s estate that was awarded to his unwell son by a small amount. His son had been unable to work for several years due to his illness, and incurred costs associated with managing his illness. When his father awarded him a smaller share of his estate than his sister, the court decided this had breached his father’s duty to him. The duty to provide adequately for maintenance and support applied, even though the relationship with his father had been strained and dysfunctional over several years before his father’s death.

 

Repercussions of not providing for your family

If any of your family members have been left out of your will or have not been adequately provided for, they could make a claim against your estate.

 

When such a claim is made, the court can review the circumstances and make an award from the estate to remedy failure to provide adequate maintenance and support. This is why it’s important to talk with us about the drafting of your will. We can help you adjust your will to minimise the possibility of a successful claim against your estate.

 

Estate claims can cause increased distress, conflict and delays during an already challenging time for your family. The legal costs associated with defending such a claim can also significantly reduce the value of your estate.

 

Important to think this through

If you’re tempted to write your wayward son, estranged daughter or irresponsible spouse out of your will, it’s well worth getting advice first. This may spare your family a claim against your estate, and the stress and expense that goes along with such claims.

 

 

[1] Emeny v Mattsen [2024] NZHC 291.

 

 

 

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Enduring powers of attorney and the transition from attorney to executor upon death

Enduring powers of attorney are legal documents that allow individuals to appoint someone to make decisions on their behalf in case they become incapacitated.

 

There are two types of enduring powers of attorney that someone can put in place:

 

  1. Property: this grants authority over financial and property matters including managing assets, paying bills, and making financial decisions. A person could appoint more than one attorney to act jointly and/or severally and direct that the powers of attorney can immediately come into effect so that the attorney can manage their property while they have mental capacity and continue to act once they become incapacitated. They can appoint a successor attorney to act in the event the first attorney is unable or unwilling to act.

 

  1. Personal care and welfare: this delegates authority over personal matters like health care and consent to treatments. A person can only appoint one attorney at a time, and it can only come into effect when they have lost their mental capacity. A successor attorney can also be appointed.

 

Specific requirements and restrictions can be put on the attorney such as a requirement to consult with or provide information to another person or to only act in relation to specific property matters. The attorney can only act in accordance with the powers given by the enduring power of attorney document. These powers are only to be used when the person who appointed the attorney is still alive.

 

When a person dies, their enduring power of attorney comes to an end, shifting the responsibility of managing their estate to the appointed executors named in their will.

 

Although an attorney may have been appointed to manage the deceased’s affairs when they were alive, the same person may not be appointed as the executor of the deceased’s estate upon their death. It is essential for individuals to understand the transition of responsibilities from enduring powers of attorney to executors upon their death. The attorney will cease to act, and the executors named in the will or appointed by the court step in to manage the deceased person’s estate. This includes handling the distribution of assets, paying off any debts, and ensuring that the deceased’s wishes are carried out according to their will.

 

You should speak to your lawyer to ensure that your affairs are managed how you intend in the event you die or become incapacitated.